Coffee Talk: Who Do You Talk To?

Feb 25, 2013

Coffee Talk: Who Do You Talk To?

We’re women, and, frankly, we have a lot going on. Families, friends, relationships, careers, social lives, finances… and that’s hardly scratching the surface, right? With so many things to juggle in life, there are times when you just need to sit across the table from a friendly face and talk. Whether it is to relieve stress, ask for advice, share some news or bounce an idea, having a person who will listen can be the difference between a good day and a bad day.

So, who comes to mind for you? Is it a family member? Friend? Significant other? Maybe it’s a mentor or a co-worker. We’re curious, how did this person become your go-to confidant? What is it about them that makes you feel comfortable enough to share?

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Brianna Cook

http://finedestination.tumblr.com/ Hannah

I have a few people I can always go to, some are far enough away that I need to call them and don’t get the face-to-face. But my go-to (besides my mom) is my roommate and best friend. We’ve known each other for a long time and it’s become so natural for us to share excitement, anger, sadness, and silliness with each other every single day. I don’t know what I’m going to do when she moves away this summer!

http://www.sincerelyanna.com/ Anna

Don`t worry about it, Hannah, I know friendships can last even when one person moves away. I “moved away” from my best friend 7 or 8 years ago (we had 6 time zones between us!) and our friendship only grew stronger. I told about our friendship below but I think our key is really to just do things together, send each other pictures, watch the same movies and talk about them, make the time to talk, even if it`s just a few minutes and you have nothing to say.
http://www.livehealthysimply.com/ Jessica Nazarali

My go to people are my husband and best friend. I don’t know what I’d do without them!

Alyssa Gapske

I have a couple close friends that are amazing listeners. I talk to my mom a lot too! I can’t help it, she’s wonderful!
http://missfearlesslystrong.blogspot.com/ Rachel

I talk to my support system of family and friends!
My best friend is one of the most patient and understanding people and she is always ready to listen or give wisdom when I need it. My parents are also a wonderful resource–in addition to listening, they pray for me constantly!
Fatima Ibrahim

I have a few close friends who are my go-to confidants, depending on what is concerning me. My mother is my best confidant though. We talk each day and and always make time to listen to each others’ concerns.
Alexandra Gill

Mom. Always mom. She understands me, she never judges me, she never has crappy advice. She always tells me the honest truth about the situation and helps me find my way.
http://www.lifeunsweetened.com/ Rachel

I always go to my boyfriend usually. If it’s a girly situation, then I go to a female friend or my mom, but usually it’s my boyfriend!
Cakes & Louie

3 people, depending on the situation – my mom, my husband, and my best friend Bridget. I actually relied on every single one of them for comfort and advice just this weekend, and I don’t know what I’d do without any of them! My mom has always been more of a friend than a mom to me, and she doesn’t judge, which makes it SO easy to talk to her. My hubby is the best listener I’ve ever met, and does SUCH an incredible job of balancing my extreme reactions to things. And my best friend just GETS me. We’re so similar it’s scary, and it makes it easy to know that if there’s something wrong, she’ll be on my side and totally understand where I’m coming from. Love them all!
Ashley Rizzardo

The person I go to the most is probably my mother. She is the woman closest to me and has had so much experience in life that I can go to her with virtually any issue and she will have a well thought out answer. Her advice is what I value the most. However, since I am school and not near her all of the time, I have also taken to confiding in one of my friends that lives on my floor in my dorm. She is a great listener and gives honest and unbiased advice and doesn’t just tell me what I want to hear and I really appreciate that.

http://allthatglitters.co.nr
http://twitter.com/catfishcaviar Drew Elizabeth

I almost always go to my significant other or my mom. My mom gives amazing advice!
http://answertheunasked.blogspot.com/ JMill

If things get very involved and tense for me, I have a hard time explaining it to people so that they understand. I also sometimes just want to vent. I usually journal then because the journal needs no back story, it doesn’t try to fix you, it doesn’t but in and it listens so well.

If I talk to my mom, she worries. If I talk to my husband he tries to come up with a fast solution. If I call a friend I have to worry about gossiping or complaining too much.

http://stylizedexistence.com/blog Lauren Corso

I totally feel you on the guys coming up with the fast solution — it’s always “so simple” to them. That’s why when I need empathy, I usually go to a woman instead. Boyfriends/husbands are great, but sometimes they don’t want us to hurt, and feel sadness or anger or whatever we are feeling, so they try to gloss over that and get to a fix instead of letting us let it all out! But sometimes we really do need to LET IT OUT!

http://www.margaretbirch.blogspot.com/ Margaret Birch

Usually a number of friends, my cousin or MIL Depends on the situation and subject.
http://confettimamas.com/ Jaime Lee

I’m blessed to have a huge support system that will cheer me on your pull me through any situation. They mostly include my husband, mom and two amazing sisters. Same goes for them, I will always lend my ear when they need someone to listen to them.
missmelmac

Once a month I get together with my mom, my aunt and two other female family friends of ours. We have dinner, drink wine and we go around the table so everyone can tell their “good, bad and ugly” about what’s going on in our lives. There are often tears but more importantly there are even more laughs. It’s nice to know I have four amazing women I can turn to for support.
Sarah Pickell

I talk to my mom, my boyfriend and my best friend. They are all such good listeners, and I know that if I need anything at all I can just call them up and talk about whatever is bothering me.

I’ve been having a rough time at my internship the last few months, and I still have a few more months to go, so when I’m having a particularly tough time, it’s great to be able to talk to them about it. Each person has their own take on the situation, and different, although often similar advice.
Kim

It depends on what I need to talk about. I used to go to my mom but she is no longer here. So now I go to my sisters. We get each other and we aren’t afraid to tell each other the truth. I can tell them anything and they won’t judge me, but they will tell me if I’m wrong. They give great advice and never steered me wrong, sometimes you need an objective opinion when your not thinking clearly and we can always count on each other for that. There is nothing we can’t tell each other and we joke about how as we become older, we are becoming more and more like our mother and we are proud of that!
http://stylizedexistence.com/blog Lauren Corso

I mostly discuss tough stuff with my guy, my mom, and my sister. I also share with my best friends, but share the guts of everything with the first three I mentioned. Aren’t moms the wisest?
http://www.prettyshinymine.blogspot.com/ Emily

I go to my mom with everything. Whether it’s problems with friends or overwhelming things at school or my job, she knows exactly what to say to make me feel 10 million times better. I have no idea what I would do without her. In my completely unbiased opinion, she’s the best mom in the whole world!
when we wander

Corey (my co-blogger and best friend) is my person (as Grey’s once referred to it). We live across the world but we chat every day on gchat about the little and big things and I know she’ll always be there to give me unbiased (well, most of the time) advice. I always wanted a best friend like her when I was little and now she’s been around a decade!
http://www.whenwewander.blogspot.com
http://www.sincerelyanna.com/ Anna

I always talk with my one best friend, she lives a few hundred miles away, but that really doesn`t matter. We met in Middle School almost a decade ago and have been best friends ever since. I moved a year after we first met and we have seen each other 3, 4, 5 times since, but we both don`t mind.
What holds us together is that we both have the same humor, almost the same tastes and opinions but when it comes to men and falling in love we are different. I`m an optimist, a relationship person and a romantic whereas she is more of a pessimist who takes a step back to observe the situation before making a decision. This has helped us in the past when one of us started going out with a boy.
We usually chat and this will literally happen at any and every time of the day. With all the smartphone apps we are in contact all day long, sending each other pictures of what we are doing, videos of places we are exploring, sound snipets of songs we are listening to…
And at times we have gone on a girls night in together, we just decided beforehand which movie we should watch and then we started it at the same time and would chat away meanwhile, discussing it in detail.
Chloe Moon

I wish I had more people to share everything with…it is so hard sometimes to find people who will actually listen! =)
http://kayleemichelleseifert.blogspot.com/ Kaylee Seifert

Definitely my best friend. We’ve lived apart since we were 11-years-old, almost 14 years now, but we grew up in the same neighborhood just a few houses away from each other. Over the years we’ve stayed in touch and visited each other whenever possible. She’s always a phone call away and the fact that we have separate lives means we can literally tell each other everything. I can call her to cry, laugh, vent, or just because I miss her. I’m so grateful for a friendship like hers.
Allison

I talk to my mom first. She gives me great advice that always points me in the right direction and helps me the best version of myself. My best friends are also a great support network and I rely on them for so much! Talking out problems or worries always helps and I think open communication for anyone is healthy.
Haley Rankins

My go-to person is my sister. I have 2 siblings, 1 brother and 1 sister. We are all in our early-mid 20s (I’m the youngest) and we’re all still trying to figure out this crazy life! Even though sometimes she has tough love for me, and sometimes we don’t agree, there is always an undertone of support and care.

http://haleyhere.blogspot.com
Emily K

I am lucky enough to have three older sisters. Though difficult at times, I have also recognized this as a blessing! Although we are 2+ years apart in age, I go to them for everything. We have considered each other as best friends rather than just sisters- and everyone shares experiences and perspectives when I look for advice. Also, having three gives me options on what advice to actually listen to!
http://livingmylifeasiknowit.wordpress.com/ Christina Tamm

I have 3 go to girls. My best friend from back home (but she only gets the news when we finally get a chance to call/Skype and catch up), my best friend (always on speed dial, gets texts as stuff happens or Im over at her house every other night catching up), and my co-worker turned really really good friend (I can talk to this girl about anything and everything, even things I can’t tell my BFF’s)
Hanajima59

Three of my best friends ever. They are the ones I turn to always. They are Jamie, Yvette and Cihannar. Yvette is the only one who lives in Chicago and I love her. She is so intelligent and gives such great advice and is wide well beyond her age. Jamie, I met on the net while playing a game and we’ve been friends for over 4 years. Sadly, he lives in London, but we always email and Skype. We are similar in many ways and can talk about anything. It’s so peaceful talking with him. Cihannar is my little sis who lives in the Netherlands and she always puts a smile on my face. I love them all, and they always make any gloomy day shine.
Angelica Golden

I know I can always depend on my husband, my mom, or my best friend; which one I talk to depends on what’s on my mind.
Melissa

I like to go to someone I consider my mentor. He’s extremely patient with me. He also has a way of getting me to think about what I’m saying by his responses and facial expressions. His responses get me to focus on what’s important and weed out what’s not. And his confused face, makes me laugh. It’s nice to have someone that can calm my life just by talking with me.
Heather Hauge

this question can also be answered by looking at the speed dials for the bluetooth in my car:
1) mom-cell
2) mom-work
3) tina-(boyfriend’s mom)
4) tyler (boyfriend)
5) dad
6) sister

not sure if it is normal, but i can talk to both my mom and boyfriend’s mom about anything and have such wonderful relationships with both of them.. and they couldn’t be more different from each other. best of both worlds!
http://mousewings.dreamwidth.org/ Iris

I have a friend I can talk to about anything. He’s told me I’m free to talk to him whenever I want about anything… and I have: work blow ups, personal issues, good things, bad things.