Maybe you’ve been in this situation—you’re reeling from a fight with your significant other, and when asked if you’re okay, you responded with a very blunt “I’m fine.” But what you really wanted to say was “I’m not fine. I’m hurt and upset.” Or perhaps you’ve been on a shopping trip with your girlfriends, and when one of them tried on something that was less than flattering, you feigned a “it looks great!” Most of us have been guilty of this—saying one thing but meaning something entirely different. It’s fairly common in our day-to-day lives—when someone asks how you are, you respond with the default “I’m well,” or when you have too much work and you’re offered help, you say you don’t need it. It can be hard, especially for us ladies, to say what we’re really thinking or feeling because we don’t want to seem vulnerable or offend someone.
So let’s open up a discussion. Do you think not saying what you really mean or feel is that big of an issue? If you think it is, is there a way to approach saying what you mean without the vulnerability or potentially insulting another individual? Can any of you Everygirls who are great at speaking up and speaking with conviction give advice to those of us who have a hard time owning up to our true feelings in uncomfortable situations?