Why Traveling is More Important Than Ever

Don't let fear keep you from exploring this big, beautiful world
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A man drove a truck through a crowd at a Christmas Market in Berlin last December, killing 12 people and injuring 56. I was in Frankfurt, a few hundred miles away, visiting family at the time. We’d spent the whole evening at a Christmas market as well.

My German family members and I gathered in the living room, watching the news and attempting to process the events as best we could, grieving the lives lost to something so senseless, with the understanding that it could have just as easily been Frankfurt. It could have just as easily been our lives.

The following day, as I was getting ready to head into downtown Frankfurt to meet my friend Megan, who travels and writes about it for a living, my mother-in-law told me how nervous she was for me to be going into the city center. I was a little nervous too – it was so unlikely anything bad would happen, but not impossible. It’s never impossible.

Right now, the world is coming to terms with the horrific events in Manchester, England, which claimed 22 lives and injured dozens, many of them children and their parents. People say that exposure to violence desensitizes you to it – that, in the words of Margaret Atwood, “normal is just what you’re used to,” but that’s only true if you separate yourself from it, not stopping to learn the names of the victims or look at their faces, keeping yourself from empathizing with those who lost daughters, sons, and spouses. The pain we feel as we mourn people we’ve never met is real, and it’s human to hurt as we empathize with victims and wonder if it could have happened to us.

I experience these feelings often as a traveler. I remember hiding in my work bathroom, crying as I read news stories about the German tourists killed in Istanbul in January 2016; I had stood in the exact location where it happened with my husband – a German tourist – two years earlier.

 

The more hate and fear exists in the world, the more necessary traveling becomes.

 

I spoke with Megan Starr, the friend I mentioned earlier, about the anxiety travelers might feel visiting new places in a time where much of the world faces political uncertainty and unrest. Megan travels more than almost anyone I know (she has resources about more than 50 countries on her blog) and knows better than most the challenges that come along with a life on the road.

“We’re never going to be prepared for it,” she told me when I asked about the way terror and fear might discourage people from traveling. “There’s no way to knowingly avoid it, really. What’s going to happen is going to happen. We can’t live our lives in fear. We have to just continue seeing the best in people.”

I had similar thoughts when leaving to go meet Megan in Frankfurt that day. I couldn’t not go. Yes, my heart hurt. Yes, the attacks in Berlin were fresh in my mind. But what are we going to do, in cases like this? Stay inside? Hide? The world is too big and too beautiful to miss out on exploring it.

There are so many reasons we need to keep traveling in spite of fear:

 

Traveling combats bigotry

You’ve seen the Mark Twain quote floating around the internet: “Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime.”

My first major international experience was when I went to live in Heidelberg, Germany for several months after my high school graduation. I enrolled in a language school and was the only American in my class. I quickly befriended a motley crew of fellow students: There were girls from Barcelona, boys from Rome, several students from Istanbul and Casablanca, and others who came and went as the weeks flew by. I was a young teenager who had never spoken a word of a foreign language, suddenly introduced to stories and perspectives belonging to people from all over the world.

I still look back on those months as some of the most formative months of my life. Stepping out of my bubble expanded my worldview and completely changed the way I thought about America, its relationship to the rest of the world, and how new experiences with new people can educate and shape a person.

The more hate and fear exists in the world, the more necessary traveling becomes.

Experiences are priceless

“If I look back on my life in eighty years – yes, I plan to live that long – and say ‘oh, wow, I didn’t travel because I was scared,’ I’m going to be really sad and disappointed I missed out on so many amazing opportunities,” Starr explained.

There’s no dollar amount we can put on the life experiences we gain while traveling. They’re simply too valuable and too precious to sacrifice.

 

Joy is an act of defiance

If we let fear keep us from living the lives we want to live, we’re not only doing ourselves a major disservice, we’re allowing those who mean to control us with threats and fear succeed in doing so.

Instead of hiding, being afraid, pointing fingers, or blaming entire races and religions for the actions a few, let’s choose instead to be kind and happy. Let’s choose to keep exploring the world and respecting the new places and people we visit as beautiful, valuable, and utterly amazing.

 

The odds are definitely in your favor

I’ve worked in a television newsroom, so I know that every self-respecting news organization has a duty to cover an attack that affects human lives and impacts communities. That being said, the onslaught of media coverage we see everyday does nothing to ease our fears and anxieties about the world we live in. In reality, you are more than five times more likely to die in an “airplane or spaceship incident” than you are at the hands of a terrorist.

“I feel safe when I walk down the street in the U.S., but statistically, it’s not safer than where I live in Europe,” Starr noted. “But it’s natural for people to fear what they don’t know and don’t understand.”

 

Most people are good

This is a biggie: When it feels like vitriol and violence are everywhere we look, remember that people trying to spread hate are, by a long shot, the minority.

“The majority of the people, regardless of religion, do not want this. We’re united in condemning attacks like this. The people in the countries you visit are just going about their lives and want peace as much as the rest of us. We’re all in this together,” Starr said. “All of the racism and attacks and hate that’s happening can sometimes make me hate the world, but when I see everyone coming together after something bad happens, it makes me realize that most people love and care about the world. That only makes me want to travel more.”

 

 

How do you feel about traveling in today’s world – are you doing it more or less? Are the places you’re choosing to visit different than they would have been five years ago? Start a discussion in the comments.

  • Ray

    I loved reading this post, surely the best of my experiences and memories are from travelling. It has changed my perspective on life a lot. Also, travelling is a foodie’s elixir.

    http://www.underaytedray.co.uk

  • This is brilliant and absolutely true! We need to go against our fears and make sure we live our lives the way we want to. I think it’s such an important point not to generalise as well – you’re spot on with the media and the fact that most people are good that we often forget because we know the existence of some not-so-nice people.

    Travel is so important, not only to gain the most out of our lives (and like Megan said, to not get to our old age and realise we didn’t do things because of fear) but it defies the actions that are happening and shows that we won’t give into the fear and it helps us learn and understand other cultures and learn from different people and I think that’s so important at the moment to try and break down the stigma of religion and race and to try and stop the fear of the unknown leading to violence!

    Brilliant post!

    JosieVictoriaa // Fashion, Travel & Lifestyle

  • All of these points are so accurate. You can only really understand the culture of a country once you travel there, and travelling eases the barriers between you and another country so much. I also totally believe in joy being an act of defiance!

    Steph – http://www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

  • Janet Boldt

    Great post! My husband and I love to travel and while we don’t have many stamps in our passports, we have several on our bucket list. We’ve had family say “aren’t you afraid?” Every time I hear that, or read a comment of “I’ll never go to Mexico again” (after the shooting in a nightclub recently) I can’t help but go on the defensive. In 2016, one of the Calgary Stampeders was shot in a nightclub in Calgary. It happens EVERYWHERE and if people think their home town or city is perfect and without crime or drugs, they’re delusional. Travel is beautiful, and we shouldn’t be grounded by fear.

  • anyates

    I went to Paris 3 months after the 2015 terrorist attack. My initial thought was fear for safety, but it was very quickly calmed by the thought that whatever is meant to happen will happen (for me it’s a spiritual based thought, for others it may not be). But I knew that I wouldn’t let fear decide what I was doing with my life, and I wouldn’t let it stop me from seeing more of the world and learning more of cultures that are different from my own. I had an amazing time in France, and met some amazing people! I’m glad I didn’t let fear make my decisions for me, and I plan on continuing to see the rest of the world. There’s too many places and people to learn from to let the hatred of a few stop me.

  • Thank-you for this. I couldn’t agree more,

    I hope you’re having a lovely week,
    Michael
    https://www.mileinmyglasses.co.uk

  • We need not be grounded by fear, and travel more far and near. I live across the river from NYC in NJ and traveel there frequently.

    It could happen anywhere or at anytime.

    Thank you so much for writing this post! Everyone should read it!

  • Audrey

    Why was my comment deleted?

    • The Everygirl

      Hi Audrey, apologies! We don’t delete comments unless they are spam, so there might have been an error with Disqus. We’d love for you to leave your comment again and share your thoughts!

      • Audrey

        Thank you for your response. I believe someone may have flagged it as inappropriate (ie. spam), and then it got deleted. Every other response had received an upvote when I came back to check it. But mine was gone. There was nothing worthy of spam in it. Just strong opinions that apparently someone didn’t want to hear. It was long a well thought out. I don’t have the time or energy to rewrite it.

  • My husband and I travelled to Europe very shortly after the 2015 Paris attacks. The US Department of states warned specifically against open air markets and I was headed to the Christmas markets in Berlin, Munich and Prague. We decided to go any way and I’m so thrilled we didn’t give in to fear. I recently travelled to Peru and had read horror stories of Lima. We had the time of our lives and felt no less safe than we do at home in Austin. Travelling more has lessened my hesitation. We are enrolled in the STEP program and I notify the nearest embassy to our destination before each trip. http://www.gustograceblog.com

  • I completely agree. It’s so interesting how different a mood is on tv than depicted in the media. I am living in South Korea at the moment. Everyone at home asks me how it’s living in a place with so much fear as shown on the news. In reality, it’s a positive and hopeful country, not one living in terror!

  • Olivia Kolkana

    Wow! Beautiful insight. It’s definitely someThing the world needs to hear right now. Thank you for your words!

    http://olivia-frances.com/

  • Bailie Roskow

    I love this article and wholeheartedly agree!

  • Jamie Drumwright

    Love this column. We are citizens of this world, not just our town.
    http://www.destinationhandmade.etsy.com

  • Lynze Ballay

    Great article and a good reminder to continue to go live your life. I recently asked this same question on my blog after the Paris attacks: “Do we let these activities make us fearful or do we allow them unite us? Do we turn inward or do we press outward?” I know my answer.

    Lynze – http://www.sheworksabroad.com

  • We have just started a website/campaign called Fearless Global Citizen (www.fearlessglobalcitizen.org). The purpose of this is to inspire people to travel and experience new cultures – in spite of the constant threat of terror and the general fears that are prevalent in everyday life. As readers of The Everygirl, we were excited to see this article since it was so closely related to the site that we had just launched.

    The benefits of travel are endless; the experiences gained by travel are priceless. So when it comes to travel, be Fearless!