"To some, settling down with the right person is the dream. I mean, what’s not to love about having someone special by your side and snagging a get-out-of-jail-free card from the highs and lows of the dating world? But to others, having the same old discussions about why the dishes aren’t done and which restaurant to DoorDash for dinner sounds just about as appealing as having to go into the office on a Saturday for a meeting that could’ve been an email. Settling down isn’t for everyone, and there are just as many reasons to do it as not to—like not having to get along with your partner’s aunt and nobody giving you a judgmental look for binging the latest season of Bridgerton in your underwear.
Your zodiac sign can tell you a lot about your relationship style, including whether settling down comes easily to you or you’re more into playing the field. On the flip side, if you’re one of the signs below and want to settle down, your zodiac sign can point you to the type of partner you need to feel comfortable and fulfilled in your relationship. Or how to protect your mental health by helping you see when it’s just not worth the effort anymore.
All the signs have the potential to be great partners, but some value their freedom and independence more than others. Here are the four zodiac signs that have the hardest time settling down:
Aries
You’re committed to achieving your goals. Your friends might say that you’re getting in your own way when you cancel yet another second date, but it’s really that you understand that life is a precious gift and you don’t have time to let anyone stand in between you and your dreams. With that being said, your dreams often involve going after whatever challenge is currently presenting itself—whether it’s a new career or a new love prospect. It takes someone extra special, spicy, and worthy to switch your focus from “my dreams” to “our dreams.”
You dance to your own music. Settling down with a partner long-term requires compromise and commitment, which can be a challenge for you if it’s with the wrong person. It’s not that you won’t compromise, but it’s not your first instinct, and your independence can have you taking control of whatever ship you’re on and charting your own course. Healthy and loving relationships, whether long-lasting or not, are where you best learn when to let your fire rage on and when to tone it down to keep from making things a bit too hot.
If you are looking to settle down… You need a partner who’s just as independent and excited about life as you are and isn’t afraid to get in a good fight every now and then. The bottom line is that you need a relationship that gives you some sort of challenge to conquer and the freedom to live life on your own terms.
Gemini
You’re haunted by all the other possibilities. For Geminis, settling down means saying goodbye to all of the other romantic lives you want to live. It’s not that you don’t love your potential partner, it’s that you know there’s the possibility for you to fall in love a hundred more times and live a hundred different adventures. What about that French lover you never got to meet or the Eat Pray Love romance in Italy? All of the possibilities you face can make it challenging to let go of what could be and focus on what is.
You need constant change and variety. Geminis are one of those signs that can benefit from thinking outside of the box when it comes to relationships. You’re not interested in a partner who wants to do the same thing every weekend and get the same margarita at Taco Tuesday every week. To you, settling down can be like only being able to eat cheese pizza for the rest of your life when you know that having a party and adding some bacon, pineapple (controversial, I know), and jalapenos would just make things so much better.
If you are looking to settle down… You need a partner that’s open-minded and willing to adapt to life with you. You’re interested in having new experiences and have a strong curiosity about everything around you, so your partner either needs to be on the same page or be independent enough to support your needs while having their own life.
Sagittarius
You need the freedom to explore. The main concern of Sagittariuses is their personal freedom and growth. With your fiery heart and curiosity, it’s not too difficult to get you into a relationship, but keeping you in a relationship is a real challenge. As Astrologer April Elliott Kent says, Sagittariuses are “designed to explore the whole world, and will never be content with just a little part of it.” You won’t let anyone hold you back from being the nomadic, explorative philosopher you are at heart—even the love of your life.
Your philosophies don’t always align. Your partner might be dreaming of a wedding in the countryside and five kids, but you’re dreaming of a meditation retreat or trip around the world where you can both grow and learn together. You tend to see partnerships as tools for personal and/or spiritual growth, which can make it challenging to find a partner that’s willing to go deep, is open to new ideas, and encourages you to change and grow, even if that means you might potentially outgrow the relationship.
If you are looking to settle down… You need a partner that’s open to new ideas and respects your need for freedom. Most importantly, whoever you settle down with needs to challenge you to grow. To a Sagittarius, a life without learning and growing isn’t much of a life at all.
Aquarius
You’re more focused on friends. Look, you’ll settle down with someone, but not if it means giving up girls’ night or taking time away from the people who really matter (i.e., your friends). As long as your partner knows they come second to your crew, there’s no issue at all. However, if they even so much as whisper the first syllable of an insult against one of your friends, they’re out the door, and you’re onto the next one (after a venting sesh, that is).
Opening up can be a challenge. Emotions? You’d rather not. Sure, you feel them, but nobody else needs to know that. You love all of the light and casual parts of the relationship but could do without the sticky parts. Getting to know someone and letting someone else get to know you can be a real challenge when you’d rather just shut down or ghost a partner than sit down and talk it out.
If you are looking to settle down… You need to be with someone who’s your friend just as much as they’re your significant other. At the end of the day, being able to talk to your partner like a best friend is what will keep you around—even if it’s about how much you hated the khaki shorts they wore to dinner.