Remember How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days? Sometimes, that on-screen, disastrous relationship feels a lot more like ours than it should. To remedy this, we decided to do some thinking on what sets our confident friends apart from, well, us when it comes to relationships. Here, seven things they do differently.
#1 – They maintain their own lives.
Confident girls aren’t at the beck and call of a boy. They don’t stop hanging out with their friends, going to workout classes they love, or otherwise ditching their lives just because they’re in a relationship. Nothing is sexier in any partnership than both parties maintaining their independent selves.
#2 – They don’t ask where it’s all going.
There’s no reason why it should just be assumed that men are in charge of the relationship timeline. Maybe you’re the one who determines the pace of your relationship. You can be, easily, and most confident women are.
#3 – They ask for what they want.
Don’t mistake the prior piece of advice to mean we’re shaming you for asking for marriage if that’s what you want. Girls with high self-esteem are never afraid that asking for their needs to be met will end a relationship, because if they don’t get what they want or need, they’re the ones who will walk.
#4 – They don’t get jealous.
We have some guy friends who are no longer allowed to hang out with us now that they’re in a romantic partnership. Somehow, this doesn’t feel like the hallmark of a secure relationship. Confident girls know that if their significant other wanted to be with someone else, they would be, and therefore they’re not prone to irrational jealousy.
#5 – They aren’t afraid to challenge things.
When you’re insecure in a relationship, it can be difficult to stick up for yourself. Girls with high self-esteem, however, have no trouble expressing anger, frustration or disappointment when it comes to the men in their lives.
#6 – They don’t post to social media every two seconds.
We don’t know about you, but when we see someone starting to up the number of relationship-oriented photos in their feed significantly, particularly when accompanied with hashtags like “#love”, we immediately sense trouble. Confident girls don’t need anyone to “like” their relationship—it’s an everyday part of their lives that isn’t any more remarkable than the rest of what they do or experience in a day.
#7 – They don’t blame themselves when it ends.
Confident girls know that relationships end for complex reasons that have nothing to do with their figure, something they said or any type of deficiency they might perceive in themselves.