Decoding Common Wedding Dress Etiquette

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It’s that time of year again! Once spring rolls around, it might seem as though there’s another wedding invitation landing in your mailbox every week. Once you figure out which events you can attend and send in your RSVPs, the next order of business is to figure out what you’ll wear.

Every wedding is different, and the dress codes can get downright confusing: What’s the difference between white and black tie? Does casual dress really mean casual? Can you wear a cocktail dress to a semi-formal wedding?

So here’s what you need to know to decode proper wedding dress etiquette, plus a few looks to inspire you!

White Tie

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A white tie wedding: The fanciest dress possible, and you’ll need to go all out. For a white tie affair, you should typically wear a floor-length gown in an understated color—think gala attire.

But don’t worry if a fancy gown isn’t in your budget. Websites like Rent the Runway let you borrow white tie appropriate dresses for affordable fees.

Jovani Embellished Chiffon Fit & Flare Dress $550
ABS Jersey Deep V-Neck Gown $390
Adrianna Papell Beaded Mesh Gown (Plus Size) $180
Adrianna Papell Lace Yoke Drape Gown $178
Rent the Runway: Badgley Mischka Ombre Astor Gown $136

Black Tie

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One step down from white tie is its cousin, black tie. This is also fancy dress, mandating formal attire. However, most people agree that you have a little more freedom when it comes to color and hem length. A chic high-low gown or a full-length dress will serve you well here!

BCBGMAXARIA Elinne Cutout Pleated Jersey Gown $338
Alex Evenings Rosette Lace Short Sleeve A-Line Gown (Plus Size) $249
Laundry by Shelli Segal Sleeveless Popover Gown $113
Rent the Runway: Halston Heritage Teal Twirl Gown $100
H&M Long Dress $59.99


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Semi-formal weddings give you a little more leeway when it comes to attire. Floor-length dresses aren’t necessary, but you’ll still want to look polished and put together. You can certainly wear a long dress, but a shorter dress is also appropriate (as is a classy jumpsuit!). Try not to let your hem creep up too far, however—knee-length or longer is your best bet.

Rachel Zoe Sleeveless Tie-Waist Wide-Leg Jumpsuit $595
BCBGMAXARIA Lanna High-Low Draped Ruffle Dress $198
Embellished Chiffon Overlay Jersey Dress (Plus Size) $178
Rent the Runway: Monique L’huillier Scarlet Candlelight Dress $85
ASOS Crepe Cowl Back 90’s Cami Midi Dress $36


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Cocktail attire isn’t all that different from semi-formal, though it’s technically another small step down on the formality scale. (You can likely recycle a semi-formal dress and no one will be the wiser.) So really, any cocktail dress will serve you well here!

Michael Kors PLUS Plus Grommet Accented Shift Dress $205
Bebe Scuba Asymmetric Hem Dress $119
Guess Easy Sequined Dress $59
One Clothing High Neck Skater Dress $48
H&M Sleeveless Dress $34.99


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When an invite says beach attire, it doesn’t mean bring your bathing suit! It’s just a heads up that you’ll be near the ocean, where it will likely be both sunny and windy, so dress accordingly. Perhaps opt for a maxi dress to avoid any wind-driven wardrobe malfunctions. Tip: This also allows you to wear practical (like wedge!) shoes underneath so you’re not struggling in heels though the sand.

It’s worth noting that some invites might call for beach formal attire—try a more formal material for your dress and embellished sandals.

Free People Other Days Maxi $128
Lane Bryant Chiffon Overlay Maxi (Plus Size) $89.95
Topshop Diagonal Stripe Jumpsuit $80
Billabong Right Around Midi Dress $49.95
Forever 21 M-Slit Maxi Dress $24.90


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You might breathe a sigh of relief when you see casual attire, as you can probably find something appropriate in your closet if you don’t want to buy a new outfit. However, casual wedding attire is more along the lines of business casual so shorts, jeans and flip flops should stay home—opt for a cute dress and flats instead. Basically, anything you’d be comfortable wearing to the office is fair game.

BCBGMAXARIA Freya Floral Print Tunic Dress $198
Anthropologie Canberra Romper $168
Target Women’s Floral Wrap Dress $54.99
Alice & You Printed Shift Dress (Plus Size) $32.35
H&M Open-Shoulder Dress $24.99


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Finally, you might encounter garden wedding attire. Similar to beach dress code, you should keep in mind that you’ll be outside for the event. As such, you might want to choose wedges over stilettos and come prepared with a chic hat if it’s a daytime ceremony. A cute sundress is all that’s needed for this event, and feel free to wear a floral print!

Ralph Lauren Floral-Print Silk A-Line Dress $245
Lilly Pulitzer Melody Crop Top & Pleated Skirt Set $178
Tahari Belted Floral Print Chiffon A-Line Dress $128
Torrid Floral Chiffon Cold Shoulder Dress (Plus Size) $58.50
Forever 21 Floral Mini Dress $24.90

When in doubt…

If you’re confused about a dress code or unsure if something is appropriate, the best thing to do is reach out to the bride or groom (or someone close to the couple). Chances are that other people are asking the same question as you, and if anything, the couple will be glad that you want to help make their special day one to remember by dressing the part.

Have you ever been invited to a wedding with a strange or confusing dress request? Tell us your story in the comments!

  • Most weddings I’ve attended recently have made no mention of a dress code on the invite or the wedding website. When that happens, I try to take my cues from what I know about the couple personally, the style of the invite, how the invite is worded, and the venue of the ceremony and reception.

    • Same here, Lacey. Luckily, for me and my wallet, my friends and family didn’t go for the black or white tie event 🙂

    • Awesome advice, Lacey! Thanks for reading 🙂

    • It’s also helpful to look up their wedding venue. You can get a good idea from photos if it’s a nicer place (that would require a formal gown) or more laid-back.

  • Mary Jo Cox

    I think you forgot the most important tip, no matter what the attire, the bride should be the ONLY one in white (or any shade of white, or any color that could be construed as white).

    • yes! Even dresses in champagne or a floral dress with a white background are a “no”

  • Great article, but if I had one advice it’d be not wearing a white (or white-ish) gown to someone else’s wedding 😉

  • Tara

    What about when the invitation just says “formal attire”

    • Hey Tara! Good question — “formal” attire falls between black tie and semi-formal on the fanciness scale, so it gives you a little wiggle room. I’d say that a floor-length dress or formal separates are your best best. If you want to wear a shorter dress, make sure the hem isn’t too short and that it’s more formal than “cocktail.” Hope that helps!

      • Tara

        Thanks Camryn!

  • Kara

    what about dress codes for the guys?

    • Hi Kara! Guys have it a little easier. In short, tuxedos are necessary for white and black tie events. For formal, semi-formal and cocktail, a dark suit (including a jacket!) is probably their best bet. For any of the more casual dress codes, guys can just wear dress pants and a dress shirt! Hope this helps!