"Spend any amount of time watching rom-coms, and you’ll see just how many ways people heal from breakups. Some people throw themselves into work or school to prove their worth (like Elle in Legally Blonde), and some go on a journey of self-discovery to figure out what they want out of life (like Liz in Eat Pray Love). Either way, one thing is clear: You have to do something. But when you’re stuck feeling all the feels, you might not have a clear sight of the best thing for you. When that’s the case, and you need a place to start, may I suggest you look to the stars?
We talked to Anotella, a professional astrologer and numerologist at Psychic World, to learn the best way for each sign to heal from a breakup. So whether you’re in the midst of a breakup or you need some advice to tell a friend who is going through a breakup, we’ve got the answers. Ahead, how to heal from a breakup and move forward with confidence, according to your zodiac sign.
Anotella, Professional Astrologer & Numerologist
Anotella has been providing psychic readings for over 10 years. With over 4,000 readings conducted across various topics such as relationship compatibility, numerology, dream interpretations, cheating and affairs, career readings, and more, Anotella helps people gain a deeper understanding of their life’s meaning and provide guidance on how to achieve true happiness.
Aries
Go on mini adventures
You’re bold, you’re fearless, and you’re ready to move on. The perfect way to do it? Through mini adventures. Whether it’s hiking a new trail, signing up for a class, or even trying a new-to-you coffee shop, Anotella says that mini thrills, like taking an adult field trip, can help Aries reclaim their independence. Even though your direct and honest nature might have you reeling to give your ex a piece of your mind, channel your energy into something that will reignite your passion for life. But remember, you get bored easily, so don’t give up until you feel fully yourself again.
Taurus
Create a cozy space
You need comfort more than ever right now, Taurus. And this time, don’t look to your ex’s arms to find it. Instead, create your own personal sanctuary at home. Grab your favorite blankets, light a candle, do something grounding, like cooking a meal or tending to your plants, and put on your comfort show. Anotella says that this will help you rebuild emotional security. You’re practical, so you know that you won’t magically feel better overnight, but return to your cozy space until you find solace. Maintaining patience throughout tough processes has always been your strong suit.
Gemini
Gemini, you thrive on getting a fresh perspective, and the best way to get it is by auditing your social circle—both online and IRL. Anotella says that by “unfollowing what no longer serves you and upgrading your conversations with stimulating new people, podcasts, and experiences,” you’ll ignite your curiosity and find new things (and people) to be excited about. You’ll adapt quickly, like you always do, making moving on easier to do. Just be careful; your “player” reputation might just get you into new situationships before you’re ready to let someone else into your life long-term.
Cancer
Write to your future self
Add “journal and cry it out” to your to-do list, Cancer, because heartfelt reflection is exactly what you need to get through your breakup. “Writing a letter to your future self filled with your hopes, dreams, and affirmations will allow you to process your feelings,” says Anotella. Plus, it will help you visualize the healed, confident person you’re becoming. You usually go to great lengths to protect and love the people around you, but this time, tune inward. The present and future versions of you will benefit from your nurturing nature the most.
Leo
Embrace a new aesthetic
You love to shine, even when times are tough. “Channeling your heartbreak energy into a bold new aesthetic will help you reclaim your spotlight,” according to Anotella. Think: a dramatic wardrobe refresh or a new hairstyle to boost your confidence. Surround yourself with loyal friends, and hit the town to show it off. Just refrain from posting a selfie with #single on it—you don’t want to be perceived as self-centered the second you get back out into the dating world.
Virgo
Try emotional mapping
You’re practical and incredibly keen to detail, so you probably saw this breakup coming from a mile away, Virgo. Still, you’ll find peace in understanding exactly what happened and what lessons you can bring with you moving forward. Anotella explains that emotional mapping can help you do that. Grab your journal and jot down emotional turning points. When did things change? How did you feel? Journaling feelings as landmarks on a personal growth journey turns heartbreak into a structured process and ultimately brings you clarity.
Libra
Detox your digital life
You’re naturally drawn to beauty and balance, Libra, but that can be hard to come by during an emotional breakup. Look to your social channels to curate the uplighting environment you need. Take a good look at the accounts you follow and decide if they are adding to your life or not. Are they inspiring? Do they excite you? If not, kick them to the curb and follow a few hobby or home decor accounts instead. You need all the peace and harmony you can get right now, Libra, and Anotella claims that a visually pleasing online environment can bring emotional balance to you.
Scorpio
Get closure
It’s time to embrace your heartbreak as a chance to find closure and renewal, Scorpio. Burn old notes and photos, cleanse your space by doing a deep clean, and unfollow your ex (and their friends!) on socials. “This powerful act of renewal will help you shed the past and emerge stronger, wiser, and fiercely independent,” according to Anotella. Set your sights on new beginnings and don’t worry about what your ex is doing to move on—jealousy has never been a good look on you.
Sagittarius
Embrace spontaneous experiences
Free-spirited Sagittarians, I know you might be hurting, but think of all the freedom you have now! Turn your heartache into an adventurous journey by embracing spontaneous experiences. Think: an impromptu weekend trip with the girls or a solo date at a new restaurant across town. Trying new things and documenting your experience (whether it be through journaling or TikTok videos) will reinvigorate your passion for life. You’ve always been open-minded, so on your hardest days, remember not to take life too seriously. There is still fun to be had.
Capricorn
Think about what you learned
You have a difficult time expressing your emotions, Capricorn, so when you’re hurting, getting practical is your best bet. By reframing your breakup as a lesson instead of a failed endeavor, you can reveal deeper truths about what you want for yourself and your relationships moving forward. What worked in your relationship? What could have gone better? How can you show up better next time? Journal about it or talk it through with a trusted friend. Just don’t throw yourself into work and ignore the learning process, OK?
Aquarius
Take on a new opportunity
Listen closely, Aquarius: The time has finally come for you to reinvent yourself. Anotella says to “channel your heartbreak into visionary change and opportunity” by making a bold career move, launching a creative project, or finally trying Pilates! Setting your sights on the future and prioritizing self-discovery will keep you from dwelling on the past, Anotella explains. You’ll find solace in your social circles and maybe even by staying friends with your ex.
Pisces
Get inspired
Hear me when I say that you’re going to be OK, Pisces. At the start of your healing process, it may be too overwhelming to think about doing anything but curling up with your favorite movie, but know that you’ll find comfort in reconnecting with your creative side. Anotella recommends “sitting outside and drawing your surroundings, listening carefully to lyrics in your playlists, or photographing something ordinary to process your emotions.” By diving into your subconscious and getting inspired, you’ll be able to uncover hidden insights about your relationship and what you want for your future.
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