"There’s something beautiful about finding your groove in the bedroom. The moment you finally figure out what you like and what makes you orgasm feels akin to a spiritual awakening. When this happens, it’s natural to create a roster of go-to sex positions that you can choose from. Yet, pulling from the same bag of tricks time and again inadvertently creates a sex life that’s boring, stale, and predictable. If you’re feeling this way because you’ve exhausted all your go-to sex positions, you’re not alone—and you’ve come to the right place.
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Similar to how spring cleaning your home can make it feel brand new, a simple sex life refresh can reinvigorate your energy and mood. So, we’ve rounded up 11 sex positions that can be swapped with your current go-to’s. Give them a try to give your sex life the refresh it deserves.
1. The Seesaw
If you love face-to-face intimacy and taking control, you’ll be obsessed with The Seesaw. Set up for a seated sex position on a bed with your partner’s legs out in front of them and leaning their torso back slightly so they can rest their weight on their hands. Then, spread your legs wide, lean your torso back and away from them, and use your hands to support yourself as you move however feels best—whether that’s back and forth or in circles. The beauty of this move is that it makes the seated sex position feel fresh and new. Plus, it lets you experiment with different angles of penetration, so you can increase your chances of having an internal orgasm.
What’s more, The Seesaw can also be modified if you want assistance stabilizing yourself comfortably. All you have to do is have your partner sit with their back against a wall or bed frame and hold onto your hips for support.
2. Kneeling Amazon
The Kneeling Amazon is a playful twist on the cowgirl sex position, and every vulva owner needs to add it to their repertoire. Have your partner lie on their back with their knees bent up toward their chest. Then, place your knees on either side of your partner and hold onto their knees as you mount their penis or strap-on. Because you’re on top, it lets you control the angle and depth of penetration, and this can help alleviate painful intercourse and increase your chances of having an internal orgasm. It can stimulate the G-spot, A-spot, and clitoris.
3. The Rocking Horse
This sex position allows you to literally rock your way back and forth to an orgasm. The angle of penetration seriously strokes the G-spot, while the position itself gives your partner unfettered access to your clitoris and other erogenous zones for simultaneous internal and external stimulation. Dual stimulation during partnered sex heightens sensations and makes it easier to orgasm, which can be especially helpful if you have a hard time climaxing from penetration. With this move, your partner sits cross-legged and leans away from you, using their hands or placing their back against a wall for support. From here, slowly lower yourself onto their lap while simultaneously hugging their thighs with yours. Taking your time and squeezing are key; the former amps up anticipation, while the latter creates new sensations.
4. Kneeling at the Edge
Introducing fresh positions into your sex life extends to oral sex, too. Although kneeling during oral sex is often associated with blowjobs, reversing the roles and having your partner kneel to perform cunnilingus can feel incredibly empowering. Plus, it can be performed anywhere since all you need is a flat surface to lie down on. Think: a couch, countertop, outdoor table, or lounge chair. Once you’ve found your desired surface, position yourself so your butt’s at the edge and your feet are dangling off or planted on the floor; you can prop a pillow or blanket underneath your hips if you need to adjust the height. When you’re comfortable, your partner can then kneel in front of you and get to work.
5. The Wrap
This sex position was designed for passionate lovemaking. With this move, you and your partner lie on your sides facing each other with your legs wrapped around their back as they penetrate you. This angle not only allows for ultra-deep penetration and G-spot and A-spot stimulation, but it’s also intimate AF since you can easily hold each other closely while looking deep into one another’s eyes. There’s not much to it, but trust me, you’ll want to add this to your new list of go-to sex positions.
6. Field Goal
While girl-on-top sex positions are typically touted as the best for vaginal orgasms, changing the angle of penetration when you’re on the bottom can get the job done, too—and the Field Goal does just that. Lie on your back with your partner kneeling over you, then have them lift your hips so they’re resting on their lap while your legs are on either side of their head, resting on their shoulders. Your knees can be straight or bent, depending on what’s most comfortable for you. Your partner can then throw their hands into the “touchdown” sign as they go in if you want to truly mimic a field goal, or they can keep their hands on your thighs for easier penetration—the choice is yours.
7. Happy Baby
A naughty take on the “happy baby” yoga pose? Say no more. This position shines in the bedroom because the angle of penetration allows for more G-spot and clitoral stimulation, which feels ahh-mazing for vulva owners. And the good news is that you don’t have to be a yogi master or insanely flexible to recreate it, either. Start flat on your back, then lift your legs in the air and hold your feet with your hands. Your knees should be bent for this, and you can spread your legs as far apart as you need to. From here, your partner can place their hands on either side of you and move in. If the position feels awkward at any point or you’re having trouble holding your legs, your partner can kneel in front of you and hold your ankles as they thrust.
8. Stacked Snakes
Doggy style, but make it intimate and increase your chances of an internal orgasm. To do this, lie flat on your stomach with one hand propped beneath your pelvic bone and legs closed. Keeping your legs closed and using your hand as a makeshift barrier will create extra friction during sex and heighten sensations. Next, have your partner lie flat on top of you and enter from behind. Since this angle offers clitoral, G-spot, and A-spot stimulation, let yourselves experiment with different speeds, depths (shallowing, anyone?), and movement patterns to find what feels best for both of you.
9. Reclined Butterfly
You know the butterfly stretch you used to do in gym class? This is essentially the NSFW take on that. In this position, you’ll lie flat on your back with your feet together and knees spread, mimicking the classic butterfly stretch. From here, your partner will place their arms on either side of you and then move in. The best part about this move is that it creates only minimal distance between you two. Not only does it allow for intense eye contact, but it also gives you access to erogenous zones like the neck, ears, and lips that you can kiss during intercourse. It’s the perfect recipe for a steamy sex session.
10. Leapfrog
Everyone needs a go-to rear-entry sex position in their collection, and you’ll be obsessed with this doggy-style alternative. It’s ideal for quickie, rip-your-pants-off sex, and it’ll drive you both crazy in the best way possible. To try it out, get on all fours at the edge of a bed, then spread your knees apart and rest your weight on your forearms while your partner stands behind you. (Your position should mimic the frog stretch!) Once you’re there, have your partner hold onto your hips as they enter from behind.
11. Layer Cake
If you’re searching for a versatile sex position, the search is officially over. The best part about this move is that either the giving or the receiving partner can be on top. This allows you to try both and switch it up as often or as little as you like. Similar to layers on a cake, there should be no separation between you and your partner; the top partner should be resting on top of the bottom one. If you’re on top, grab onto an object, like a headboard, to propel you back and forth. If you’re on the bottom, use whatever surface you’re lying on to support you so you don’t move around too much while they thrust. This way, you’ll get deep penetration and intense intimacy.
Arianna Reardon, Contributing Writer
Arianna is a Rhode Island native, professional blogger, and freelance writer. She’s passionate about helping women develop healthy relationships with money, become financially independent, and invest in themselves for the future. Arianna is a firm believer in going after what you want, taking time to stop and smell the roses, and the importance of a good cocktail.
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