4 Surprising Ways Self-Help Changed My Life

The self-help aisle at any bookstore is always a bit awkward. If you’re the person standing there, you feel judged immediately, and if you see someone standing next to you, it’s almost human nature to wonder what they’re trying to “fix.” And while online shopping has made the physical chore of visiting the store unnecessary, self-help has evolved from something to be embarrassed about to something to be proud of—at least for me. Here’s why:


Self-help is about improving yourself, becoming a better person—and I don’t see anything embarrassing about that.


It’s made me smarter.

As someone who has been out of college for nearly a decade, self-help has become my welcomed classroom of sorts. From learning about myself, to others, to facts about history, I love how it’s made me more intellectual. There’s nothing wrong with fiction or a nice beach read, but as an avid TV watcher, filling my mind with yet another storyline wasn’t beneficial. Books like The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*** have taught me something with each turn of the page.


It’s connected me to myself and others.

Sure, there’s a whole world of people rolling their eyes at the idea of self-help, but there’s also a world waiting to embrace you because of it. Even with some of my best friends, being able to talk about ideas that it’s taught us—from the notion of self-love to which foods energize your body—is such a valued connection. Instead of talking about The Bachelor or something trivial (which also happens often), the chance to have deeper conversations is refreshing.


It’s created healthy habits

Without self-help, I wouldn’t have learned about living minimally, or meditating and clearing my mind after a long day. Two things that have truly bettered my life! Self-help has made me a healthier, happier person. As corny as it sounds, I think it’s helped me “find myself,” if there’s such thing.


It’s made me more confident

Above all, self-help has made me a much more secure person. I now know the science behind why certain emotions happen, including internal criticism, and it’s helped me manage my decisions. It’s also made me realize the importance of honest relationships, owning up to mistakes, and accepting flaws—all that lead to a more confident me.

At the end of the day, self-help is about improving yourself, becoming a better person—and I don’t see anything embarrassing about that.


Are you a self-help junkie? Or one of the people rolling their eyes? No judgements either way!

  • I definitely agree that Self-Help is so important and I love all these points! It’s definitely helped me become more confident and relaxed – normally this time of year brings around a lot of exam stress and panic but by allowing myself some down time and reminding myself that I’m wonderful, I’ve been so much calmer, and able to help others be more calm too!

    I’ve definitely found that it’s kind of addictive too – every morning and night I write down 5 things that I’m thankful for and even thinking about them and writing them just makes me smile and realise how wonderful I am and how wonderful my life is and this really allows me to ooze positivity in a lot that I do!

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    • Chelsea

      Glad you agree! The good thing is, the addictive self-help habits usually lend themselves to productivity or something good in life.

  • I’m a total self-help junkie. I fill my kindle up with books and listen to them in the car and when working. I love learning knew techniques for self-improvement.

    • Chelsea

      Listening via audio is such a great idea, one I don’t do enough. What are your favorites?

      • My absolute favorite is the pretty popular, “You Are a Badass…” by Jen Sincero I also really liked “Your Life Can Be Better” by Douglas A Puryear. It’s an organizational book for ADHD but has some really good tips for keeping track of everything.

  • I genuinely liked this post. I believe that self-help books have evolved a lot the last decade and it is a way to improve oneself and a learning tool.

    Have a lovely weekend!

    xoxo Violeta, your Shoegal Out In The World


    • Chelsea

      Thanks so much!

  • I have to say that I am not into self help books!! I have tried but they aren’t my thing!! But I think that for others it can be a great source of help and that’s great!!


    • Chelsea

      That’s OK! Do you listen to any podcasts that are self-help? Or totally not into it?

      • Nope! But I just started listening to podcasts in general and they aren’t bad!!

  • Catherine

    What would you recommend – your best self help reads? Newbie!

    • Chelsea

      The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**K, The Four Agreements, and Zen Habits. Enjoy!

  • Chelsea

    Agreed! xx

  • I love self-help & I completely agree. It changes your mindset especially when it comes to your health, your body, and your wellbeing in general!

  • I think I fall somewhere in the middle. Bettering oneself is important and we should never stop trying to improve or become the best possible versions of ourselves – whatever that means to each of us individually, but I draw the line at overpriced self-help books from celebrities who ‘claim’ to be experts on a subject or think they have the next twelve-step plan to stop you from agonizing over this flaw or that quirk or what you ‘should’ be spending your money on or what things you ‘should’ be purging from your life, etc.

    I do read books about mental health, physical health and how disability affects trying to lead a “healthy” lifestyle, and spirituality centered books (non-Christian) from acclaimed experts and professionals though, but even those I take with a grain of salt and realize that not everything they write will pertain to me.