"If you’ve made it this far in the Best Life Blueprint challenge, you’re already well on your way to creating the 2025 of your dreams. But you’re not done quite yet. There are only four days in the last week of January, so if you give it one final push, you can officially pat yourself on the back. This week is all about detoxing your relationships. After all, this time of year we detox our diets, our routines, and our closets—we should also take careful stock of the most important factor to our health and happiness: our relationships. That means identifying what’s not serving you, stepping away from toxic relationships, and reinvesting in those you truly value. It may sound hard right now, but don’t worry. With this day-by-day guide, you’ll have plenty of support throughout every step.
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Tuesday, January 28: Listen to “A 14-Day Friendship Cleanse and What Modern Friendships Look Like, With Anna Goldfarb”
Anna Goldfarb is a journalist, speaker, and author of Modern Friendship: How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections. In this new episode, Anna shares the unexpected reasons behind our loneliness epidemic, why we all feel like we don’t have enough friends, and how friendship is different today than in the past. Josie asks Anna about insecurities in friendships as well as concrete tips to form deeper connections, make new friends as an adult, and feel more fulfilled in your relationships. Anna also shares what Matthew McConaughey and Guy Fieri can teach us about friendship, the Bravolebrity friendship that is the healthiest IRL, and how to do a “friendship cleanse” for a much more satisfying, healthy, and meaningful social life in 2025.
Wednesday, January 29: Identify people you spend your energy on that are not worth your time
Carrying draining relationships throughout the entirety of 2025 can have a significant impact on your mental (and physical) health, so evaluating your current relationships is crucial. Journaling is a great first step if you don’t know where to start. Write down the most important relationships in your life. Be honest with yourself about how much time and energy you dedicate to these relationships and what support you receive in return. Relationships are a two-way street—if you’re constantly building up someone you feel isn’t offering the same, it might be time to take a step back. You don’t need to dramatically call them up and declare they are no longer on your list of besties; just don’t put as much effort into it. Instead, take that time and invest it in the relationships you value. This will naturally create distance in the relationship and allow you to focus on those that matter most to you.
Thursday, January 30: Listen to “How to Connect With Anyone and Friendship Expiration Dates, with Lori Harder”
Lori Harder is a best-selling author, investor, entrepreneur, and master networker. She is the author of the book A Tribe Called Bliss: Break Through Superficial Friendships, Create Real Connections, Reach Your Highest Potential. In this episode, Harder shares why your network determines your net worth and how friendships are key to financial and career success. She gives powerful, concrete advice to find, form, and keep meaningful friendships: why friendships are like checked luggage, how all relationships have an expiration date, and three questions to ask at every event, party, or coffee date.
Friday, January 31: Make a list of who is in your circle, and then make a plan of action to deepen the relationship
In Goldfarb’s book, she calls it the bathtub, jacuzzi, and swimming pool: There are usually one to two people in your bathtub (usually a best friend, sibling, or significant other), three to five people in your jacuzzi (the friends, coworkers, neighbors, etc. that you are closest to, that make up your support system, etc.), and the 10-15 people in your swimming pool (people you interact with and consider a friend, such as work/school friends, other couples you go on double dates with, etc.). Identify who these people are for you. This list is your intimate social network, the people whose friendship matters most to you. Then, make a plan of how to deepen the relationship (even slightly) with each friendship: make sure all of their birthdays are in your calendar and text or call them this week to express gratitude and/or make plans.
Josie Santi, Senior Wellness Editor & Podcast Host
Josie has been an editor and writer for The Everygirl since 2017 and became a certified Holistic Health Coach in 2020. As the Senior Wellness Editor, she oversees, writes, and edits wellness content. Listen to Josie on The Everygirl Podcast, where she interviews guests and hosts episodes on a variety of educational, inspirational, and entertaining topics.
