As a serial dater, when prompted with what to look out for on a dating app, coming up with red flags is a piece of a cake. Coming up with what makes a profile great isn’t as easy, but it’s obviously all that makes you excited to meet someone. In an effort to give you the best dating app profile advice around, I did some swiping to figure out what makes a good bio, how to initiate conversation, and what inspires me to get to know someone. Consider these the dating app green flags you need to know:
1. They explicitly say what they’re looking for
Knowing from the get-go that someone wants something casual or if they’re trying to find their soulmate takes a lot of guesswork out of the dating equation. Then, you don’t waste your time (or theirs!) with someone who wants something that you’re not looking for.
2. Their photos show what they like to do versus just selfies
There’s nothing wrong with a few selfies on your profile (Lord knows I have like three), but when it’s all selfies, that gets a little redundant. It’s nice to see a profile that has a variety of photos: with friends, involved in their hobbies, with family—the more photos, the merrier.
3. They have a unique opener
Taking the extra time to come up with a fun opener versus just saying “hi!” makes you stand out and shows that you’re OK getting a little into it. Finding a good Bumble opener is hard work, so I appreciate someone who puts the time in.
4. They make a plan to meet
Talking to someone for weeks on end with no plan in sight can make you feel like a texting partner rather than a potential date. But when someone makes a plan to meet (whether that’s in person or via Zoom) early on, it feels like you’re both in it to actually date, rather than just text forever. Bonus points if they ask to meet in a public place first.
5. They share their interests in their bio
A well-thought-out bio that actually has someone’s interests, their job, what they’re looking for, their zodiac sign is kinda the bare minimum, but it’s the biggest green flag of all. Dating apps are meant to help you meet people, and having a little bit of knowledge prior to exchanging hellos makes the dating process significantly easier.
6. When you can tell they actually read your profile
When someone puts in the work to message me a response to something in my profile, I’m putty in their hands.
7. They’re positive
It’s awkward to see someone immediately go into the negative. “No cheaters!” “Not looking for drama!” But when their profile is filled with positivity—like everything they love to do, how much they love their job, and that they have an open mind and are excited to date—you’re so much more drawn to them. Instead of saying what you don’t want, a positive profile states what they DO want.
8. They state the social issues they care about
It’s good to know when we’re on the same page. 🙂 Bumble has options to state the issues you care about, such as Black Lives Matter, LGBTQ+ rights, feminism, and more, making this one extra easy.
9. They link up to Spotify so you can see their music taste
It’s really nice to know when someone I’m talking to also likes obscure early ‘00s pop-punk.
10. They’re actually smiling in their photos
Back to the positivity, having a few photos that show off your pearly whites just makes you look approachable and fun (versus a weird serious, selfie face over and over again). I need to be able to imagine what you’ll look like when I’m making you laugh all night!