If you think using positive thinking to attract what you want is too good to be true, think again. As someone who used to be skeptical about whether the Law of Attraction was legit, I’ve come to learn that manifestation works. I’d steal copies of Allure from my mom as a little girl and visualize myself as one of the writers. And here I am today, bringing you this article and getting paid to do what I love. I subconsciously manifested it, and if something amazing has ever entered your life, chances are, you did too.
According to modern-day expert Rhonda Byrne, manifestation is all about putting your intentions out into the universe and waiting to receive them expectantly. This builds off the principle of the Law of Attraction, which states that what you think is what you create. With this mindset, there truly are no limits to what you can bring into your life—whether it be a dream job, more money, or even that special someone.
That being said, if you’re curious about how to start manifesting your ideal relationship, you’ve come to the right place. With these six easy steps and practical tips, you can bring your dream partner into your life. Keep on reading to learn how.
How To Manifest Someone In Your Life
1. Choose who you want to manifest
When it comes to manifesting a specific person, you first need to figure out what your ideal partner looks like. Think about and write down everything you want in a partner, including the kind of person you want them to be, what their interests are, and everything in between. Nothing is off-limits. Then, go through that list and determine which qualities are most important to you. You might think you want to date an entrepreneur but realize that you really want a partner who will be around to support your dreams too. Or, you might realize that you want someone who makes you laugh above all else. Whatever the case may be, getting clear on exactly who you want to manifest will make it easier for them to enter your life.
2. Journal about who you want to manifest
Once you know who you want to manifest, you can journal about them. This can be done by writing positive affirmations, a list of qualities your future partner has, or writing your manifestation multiple times a day. Regardless of which manifestation method you choose, it’s crucial that you’re specific and write everything in the present tense. For example, instead of writing “I want to…” write: “I am seeing someone who is kind to others, makes me laugh, and loves hiking as much as I do.”
Writing in the present tense will reaffirm that your manifestation will happen and is happening—not that you want it to happen. This goes for speaking as well. Speaking about your ideal partner as if they’re already in your life will make it easier for you to find them. Your words hold power, so get intentional with them.
3. Make a relationship vision board
It’s also a good idea to make a detailed vision board of what a loving relationship looks like to you. This can include the romantic dinners you’ll have, places you’ll travel, activities you’ll do together, the engagement ring you’ll give or receive, the dream home you’ll share, and so on. Vision boarding will help solidify exactly what kind of person and life you want, which will make it easier for you to visualize and bring your manifestation to fruition. Seeing is believing, after all.
That being said, don’t be afraid to place your vision board somewhere you can’t see it. It might sound crazy, but this will allow you to let go of the person you’re trying to manifest, which is key to giving them the space and energy to come in. Remember: You want to keep them in the space where you already have them—not that you want them.
4. Visualize your life with them
Visualization is a great tool for manifestation because it makes your goals feel more tangible. Take some time every day—even as little as three minutes—to sit quietly, close your eyes, and imagine your ideal life with that special person. Imagine all of the things you’ll do together, whether it be traveling, getting married, having kids, buying a house, etc. Witness yourselves in each scenario, and allow yourself to truly feel it. For example, if you’re eating dinner in Mykonos, feel the breeze from the Aegean Sea on your skin and taste the salt from olives on your tongue while you stare longingly across the table at that special someone.
5. Believe that you deserve them
If you’re serious about manifesting true love, it’s critical you believe you deserve it. For example, if you say “I feel like I never have good luck with partners” you will manifest bad luck in your love life. So, set aside some time to go inward and do some self-reflection. This can be done through deep breathing, meditation, yoga, or reflective journaling; try and identify any self-limiting beliefs you have about love. Let yourself sit with these beliefs and recognize that they’re lies, then bid them adieu for good. Taking the time to raise your vibration will bring you to a place that’s ready to receive the partner you’re looking for. Likewise, enlisting the help of daily self-love affirmations can also be beneficial because they’ll remind you exactly how worthy you are of that once-in-a-lifetime kind of love.
6. Actually take action
As nice as it would be, sitting around and talking about your dream partner does not mean they’re going to ring your doorbell the following day—you still have to work for them. So, take action and put yourself out there. Sign up for dating apps that are in line with what you’re looking for, let your friends set you up, and gather up the courage to ask out someone you think is cute. Sign up for a pottery class if you want your partner to do pottery; join a nature lovers group if you want someone who’s outdoorsy. And most importantly: Actually go on dates!
In the meantime, continue working on becoming the best version of yourself. Being able to commit to yourself will make it easier for you to commit to someone else and have a fulfilling relationship when the time comes. Focus on doing more of what nourishes your soul, building self-love, and letting go of things that no longer serve you (think: late-night haunts that leave you questioning all life’s choices the following day). The timeline is different for everyone, but do the work and trust the manifestation process; when the time is right, the universe will send you exactly who you’re looking for.
