As much as the holidays bring about happiness and cheer, it’s also a time for a lot of weird sh*t to happen. I mean, it all makes sense. Everyone’s home for the holidays, reminiscing about the last year and thinking to the future. Well, things are bound to get a little messy, and we’re here to help you through all the weird moments. Focus your stress on finding the perfect gift for your loved ones instead of running into your high school beau at the grocery store.
1. Seeing your ex at a Christmas party
You walk in, and there they are: that ex you had absolutely no intention of seeing, well, ever again. Quick: do I run outside and get back in the car? Do I put on a disguise? I might as well get a face transplant after this!
Luckily, seeing your ex at a party doesn’t have to be that dramatic. While it’s beyond uncomfortable and something all of us would dread, going at it with a different mindset might make all the difference. Use this as a chance to flex how great you’re doing. Instead of running and hiding, stand your ground. You don’t have to go right up to them and make conversation, but if they do try to talk to you, be open and civil. Brush it off, and laugh with your BFFs about it later.
2. Talking politics with your family
If anyone saw Knives Out, you’ll know the stress of dealing with family members bringing up politics over the dinner table. Sometimes, all you want to do is say eff it and engage, but keeping the peace is probably what your mom would want. Don’t give Uncle Mike (everyone has an Uncle Mike, and if you don’t, he’s your dad) the satisfaction. While you can certainly each give your own sides to the argument (and we’d recommend you do so!), hashing it out for hours isn’t productive for anyone. After you believe you’ve said your peace, agree to disagree and find another topic to talk about.
3. The Christmas break text
We’ve all experienced it before: you’re freshly home in your PJs with a Christmas movie in the background, and your phone lights up with a name you haven’t seen in quite a while. It’s the Christmas break text. You know what I’m talking about. Whether it’s an ex, an old beau, or a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while, someone texts you with an out-of-the-blue “heyyyy” (the more Ys, the better). Are we supposed to respond or leave them on read? There are a few ways you can go about this situation. I’m in the camp of not responding — don’t give them the satisfaction and get it out of sight, out of mind. However, you could also give a sly, coy response that blows their mind and reminds them of what they lost. The options are open here, but the most important thing to remember is to not let it get to your head. If you’re on the path of healing and getting over this person, it can be tough to surprisingly hear from them. Put your healing above their selfish reasons, and make your decision to respond that way.
4. Having sex at home
Now on the other end of the spectrum, you might be bringing a partner home for the holidays this year. It’s a happy time of the year, and it’s very possible you might want to get it on. No shame in your game, girlfriend. But you’re in your family home. Are we allowed to have sex in our childhood beds?!?! The answer is yes, and here’s how you do it: you just do it. I know it’s odd as all heck, but you’ll get over it before you know it.
5. The “Still single?” questions from family
Why is asking about my relationship (or lack thereof) the only thing my family members want to ask me anymore?! It’s so frustrating to talk about your relationship status at every party. Focus on setting boundaries with your family and friends from the get-go, so you don’t have to worry about all the stress of the questions when the time comes.